Hey I’m Candice

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If you have been drawn to my work, it is likely you have an anxious attachment style.

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And great news, you’re in the right place because I am known for taking clients from anxious to secure attachment style with healthy relationships

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What you need to know about me is, that I have LITERALLY been you. That is why my content feels like I am in your head!

 

*STORY TIME*

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I score 10/10 on the childhood trauma aces test, which means I experienced all forms of trauma & abuse ongoing by the age of 7

 

and I had severe abandonment & rejection wounds from my caregivers

 

I was very anxiously attached but I didn’t know it.

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I had incredibly LOW SELF-WORTH

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A vey HARSH INNER CRITIC

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An OUTRAGEOUSLY OVERTHINKING mind

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& incredibly UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS with myself & others

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Which led me to get married at the age of 24

 

I thought someone had finally come to save me from my trauma, as they showed me the love I was desperately missing.

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Only this turned into a toxic relationship that mirrored a lot of my childhood, only my abandonment wound wouldn’t allow me to leave, no matter how toxic it was.

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I just clung on trying to fix & save it.

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Again, I had no idea what this was back then.

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Eventually it did end.

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After some time being single, I entered into another relationship with an avoidant attachment style.

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An avoidant attachment style is another insecure attachment style that has the opposite needs to an anxious attachment style, so they end up triggering each other.

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Which creates a very painful push pull dynamic.

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My abandonment wound was constantly triggered & I was highly anxious the entire time, experiencing all the symptoms I speak about in my content and that you are experiencing.

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But again, I couldn’t leave.

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In fact I worked very hard to make it work instead… to avoid being abandoned.

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It was exhausting.

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Meanwhile, completely abandoning myself.

 

I had no idea at the time that I had an anxious attachment style or what it even was.

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Hence why I do what I do now as most of you are in the same position I was.

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When that relationship ended, I began my self-discovery journey of recognising I had an anxious attachment style, it all made sense finally.

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I wasn’t crazy, hooray! Although I sure did feel it.

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I worked on healing my abandonment/rejection wound from childhood & learning to become a secure attachment style, which I now am.

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I have healthy relationships with others but most importantly with myself.

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But it wasn’t an easy journey. There wasn’t anyone like me showing me the way, which is why I do what I do as lord knows it is painful.

 

I wish I had known about it alot sooner so that I could have taken the action to overcome IT, as I can see now, my anxious attachment style sabotaged my relationships over & over again.

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So I am on a mission to help you and as many people as possible not to make the same painful mistakes.

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I have been honoured to work with hundreds of clients since I started this business a few years ago & my content has touched thousands.

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Nothing fills me with more joy than seeing my clients get insane results & hearing the impact my content has.

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It was all worth it.

 

To hear more about my story, listen to this episode on the F*CK TRAUMA PODCAST